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Some people who have a cottage at the shore actually go to the beach.  Why, when we didn’t have a cottage and we spent weekends at the Lilligaard Hotel, we used to go the beach, soak up the sunshine, read a book, totally relax and end the day on the big porch with a martini!!

That was then and this is now – There was no buffet for breakfast this morning with a bottomless cup of coffee.  Instead, Peter made his own eggs while I toodled around with the computer and watched Sunday Morning.  That was just my way of procrastinating, there were so many things on my To Do List and a good many I had put on Peter’s list.

I showered and ate and set out for my first stop which was to Susan’s BECAUSE once again, those damn knitting needles screwed up the sleeve of Finley’s sweater.  And on my way over, I spotted balloons down the street,  a sure sign of Spring in the Grove – YARD SALE! Not a lot to choose from BUT of course I found a few treasures; 2 DVDs, 2 books for the Grandbabies (I think the books are part of a fantasy of having the grandkids here and reading to them) and a very strange looking tool for Peter which  I thought maybe he would clean up and sell at the Flea Market (that may be yet another fantasy).  Susan fixed the sleeve in no time and I was off to Starbucks for my morning FIX of a Grande Americano with a lite splash of steamed brevi.  Whenever I place that order I feel like I’m a DP from LA. A while ago I bought a travel mug at Starbucks for the car and so if you give it to the staff to fill instead of taking a paper cup and transferring in a moving car which is always a treat, lol, you actually receive a 10 cent discount.  So I hand over my mug with my order and the barista hands it to me with the top not on.  As I screwed on the top, very hot steamed espresso and half and half streamed out through the top making puddles on the counter and a mess all down the sides of the mug.  FIRST I had to bring to her attention that I needed something to clean it up.  She said “Oh I’ll clean it up, it happens all the time”.  She wiped up the counter BUT I’m holding a mug that literally has foamy milk running down all of the sides and on my hand.  NO OFFER to give me something to wipe it or me ,clean.  I literally must have used 25 napkins to get all of the foam off the mug.  It sounds silly, easy and stupid right? WELL, the mugs are covered in various spots with a rubberized and textured coating – all the better for the hot cream to adhere to! Wipe, wipe, wipe and wipe again. I tried sipping some of the brew so it would be below the screw top and still it came out. THIS IS RIDICULOUS!  Wouldn’t you think the people who work for the company that sells the mug would know how high you can fill it?   Why I felt funny about taking a photograph of it right then and there I don’t know – I had my camera with me and I should have snapped  a shot of the total oozing mess.  I wanted a picture for the blog BUT  was embarrassed about taking a photo lest they think I was planning on sending it to corporate.

Espresso, steamed Brevi, Starbucks, travel mug

You can still see specks of foam on the mug

Finally I snapped a quick photo surreptitiously at the very end of the clean up.  BUT I am going to write to Starbucks because a few weeks ago this very same girl was on the counter and when I asked her for the discount that she didn’t give me, she shrugged her shoulders and took a dime out of the tip container.  I guess that was to make me feel foolish and petty when in fact she made the error.  This same staff person on that same day looked at me blankly when I ordered a Tall black Pike’s and proceeded to give the robust coffee of the day.

Listen I know anyone can make a mistake, it’s not about that, it’s the attitude! Wouldn’t you think she would be concerned and apologetic that hot coffee was all over a Guest? Wouldn’t you think she would have glanced over and saw me ripping napkins out of the holders to wipe up the continuous puddling on the counter where the sugar and milks are? Wouldn’t you think she might have said something while I was frantically trying to clean up the mug – this while other guests were trying to add milk or sugar to their own drinks and I am standing there looking like the slob who spilled her coffee everywhere?

Once out the door I headed to Harmon Discount because all week long I had been waiting to buy  two new eyebrow pencils and two blue eyeliners. THAT’S ALL I was going to get.  Part of the spring cleaning of my make-up kit times two because as you know any lady worth her Oil of Olay has cosmetics and stuff at both of her dwellings.  At least 3o minutes later I emerged from Harmon with just a few other items. You know when you go to the grocery store and you’re hungry, you come home with all kinds of snacks and goodies, well somehow the same phenomena struck me when I was in Harmon’s.  For those of you who are not familiar with this store (it is a chain)-it sells discount cosmetics and toiletries, hair dryers, hair care products as well as brushes, clips etc.  In other words it’s a fun place to browse through especially if you’re a girl even a girl of a certain age. So, 2 blue eyeliners – two different brands and two different colors, a water spray bottle to keep my forced curls curly, an eye shadow palette for hazel eyes because I am sure my brown eyes are fading, another eye shadow combo with some greens in it to replace the one I dropped on the bathroom tile floor, you know what that mess was like.  Of course I needed two eyebrow pencils too and again two different shades, two different brands – I mention this only because you can imagine how much time was spent while I desperately tried to determine which product and shade was right.  I think my Gemini side was in full force yesterday morning. – maybe my moon was rising.  Then there was the replacement of a lip stain by Cover Girl that I really like and am almost out of, so I got one of those too. Just as I thought I was done (really) I spotted this eye brightener – now that is a ridiculous come on if I ever heard one because other than putting some magic drops in your eyes, what could this mere pencil do?  Well we’ll find out!!! Leaving the store at the checkout counter, I thought to myself, I should never come in this store again when I’m hungry!!

Guiltily and quickly I headed home, picked up Peter and off we went to the storage area where we needed to drop off some New York street furniture find of his, return the Easter hats to their year long home and find a bank that we sold on Ebay which was supposed to be in a bin and was NOT.  We are hoping it is somewhere in New York because it has been paid for and the buyer is awaiting shipment.

“What a great day to paint, don’t you think, Peter?” He promised to paint the trim around the windows in the bow window to match the front of the house.   Last year we had picked out a beautiful shade of a green that is somewhere between sea glass and aquamarine and at the time we only painted the two front windows and the front door frame…I really wanted the windows on the ocean side of the house painted too.

Sea Glass green, Bay Window

Bay Window on La Vie en Rose

So after he painted the bow window frames, I drove past the house and sure enough the remaining two side windows stood out like the proverbial sore thumb!  Thankfully it didn’t take much convincing to have him paint those also.  So now our little cottage, La Vie en Rose has some color on the side.  It’s hard to convince anyone it’s a little Victorian when it has white vinyl siding on it.  Very bland, but I am adding color wherever I can and making it into a Confection of a Cottage inside and out!

Lest you think I was reading, knitting or writing this blog while he was working I was not!  We had bought a huge bag of mulch two weeks ago and so I spread it among our bushes in the back, the daffodils on the side and cleaned up the front landscaping and put some there too.  I know that doesn’t sound like a lot of work, but I had to fill a pail with the mulch, spread it, fill the pail again and again and again.  Still, that was a lot easier than washing the mildew and moss off of the porch spindles and the edge of the porch floor.  I scrubbed and scrubbed and it still doesn’t look great and I am trying to convince my painter that mildew will just eat its way through new paint and also some of the spindles and the lower balustrade need to be replaced, AND the porch floor could use some minor repair and a repainting and thank God our other home is an apartment with a Superintendent, handymen who clean the hallway carpeting and wash the floors,  a trash room, a laundry room, a doorman and a garage.

All work, no play? NO WAY – as Sunday afternoon faded away, look how much fun we had doing our favorite Shore thingDrinks and appetizers on the porch with friends! Doncha just love it?

Jim Taylor, front porch

Chilling on the porch

Peter Press, martini, front porch Ocean Grove

Savoring the evening's martini

Cheese and crackers, olives, Bruschetta, shrimp, appetizers, red peppers, artichoke hearts

Hors D'ouevres on the Front Porch

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Easter Parade, New York City, Fifth Avenue,Easter bonnet, Easter hat

I think one of the birds fell off

Fifth Ave New York City Easter Parade

And then there was this guy...

Fifth Avenue, Easter Parade, Easter hat

Let me see too!

Peter Press, Fifth Avenue, Easter Parade New York city

Dashing and Debonair As Always

Fifth Avenue, Easter Parade, New York City, Straw boater, Top Hat

Ebony and Ivory

Black and White Study of a Drag Queen

Easter Parade, Fifth Avenue, Easter Sunday in New York City, Easter hats, Bes-Ben hat

Oh So Colorful Are We!

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Easter Sunday dawned sunny and bright just as the weatherman promised and as a result, the Avenue was packed.  It was a cacophony of color ranging from deep cerise, brilliant turquoise, lively pinks, lemony yellows and mint greens and lavenders everywhere.  Vintage clothes were pleasantly evident and it was hard to decide if there were more men decked out in vintage sartorial splendor including a fair share of straw boaters, a few top hats and even a bowler or two than women in forties dresses and many a vintage designer hat, like my friend Helen wore.  She donned a unique Bes-Ben which captured the eye of many a photographer during the day.

Bes-Ben, Helen Uffner, Uffner Vintage clothing, Easter Parade Easter bonnet

Helen wears a Bes-Ben 1940's hat

As for me, I wore a floral and ribbon creation made by yours truly.  I tried to make my hat with a lot of green thinking i would be walking in the Parade with Miss Fin who had on the most adorable (well I DID buy it) mint green outfit on.  But alas, she was crabby this morning and slept during some of the Parade and when I did catch up with her again before brunch, she just would not put on her hat.  Of course, she had been wearing the hat around the house all the previous week.  Ahhhhhh the unpredictability of a 19 month old.

Finlley Ray, Easter hat, dressing up

How do I look?

Easter parade, Fifth Avenue

I'm being held up on the Avenue

My photo was taken by Murray Head.

Easter Parade '10, kaleidoscope of color, Easter hat, Fifth Avenue

Looking Ahead by Head

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Easter hat, Parade, dress rehearsal, bonnet

Dress Rehearsal for the Easter Parade

Just thought I’d give you a sneak peak at what’s happening for the Easter Parade.  And NO, Finny is not wearing this particular hat but she sure looks cute in it, doesn’t she?

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Baby reading, book, Finny, Finley Ray Clark

Finley Ray Reads Aloud

Gigi just loves the bow in your hair today!

And God, you look like your Mommy!

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I didn’t think there was anymore to be said about Passover and Seders BUT…last night we were invited to attend a Second Night Seder at Ruth and Steve’s lovely home in Larchmont.  What a treat! This Seder being the second night ONLY had about 30 people – wow and I was told that there were about 60 people the night before.  Before dinner there were bowls of chopped liver and hard boiled egg to be spread on Matzah.

Chopped liver, hard boiled egg, Passover Seder Matzah, appetizer

Pass the Chopped Liver Please

Elegant place settings at 4 huge round tables replete with individual Kiddush cups, baskets of Matzah with covers, a Seder plate on each table and then our host led us through a very traditional Passover ceremony.  Children are blessings and special attention is given to them during the Passover ceremony.  Last night we listened to Judah, who is ONLY 2 1/2 years old recite one of the Four Questions and join in the singing of some of the festive songs in Hebrew! He was a delight at the table and so well-behaved.  The food was delicious and made with our hostess’ recipes some of them handed down from her mother.  There was brisket, roast turkey, stuffed breast of veal, two kinds of kugel, roasted cauliflower, tsimmis, Schmura Matzah and more.

Don't make a big tsimmis over it,  carrots, prunes, Seder Passover
Tsimmis

An entire table was laden with decadent desserts and fresh fruit.  It should come as no surprise to my readers that this special meaningful Seder was hosted by Ellen’s sister! We were thrilled to receive the invitation and were sent home with a care package large enough for dinner tonight AND a box of Matzel Toff. And starting tomorrow we move into Easter mode, oh this week is a caloric nightmare.  I have been eating all of the Nestle crunch chocolate eggs that I didn’t put in Finley’s Easter Basket.  But enough, Dayenu!

You can find out about Matzel Toff  at http://matzeltoff.com

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My sweet little granddaughter Finny (Finley Ray) had to have one of her ears pierced AGAIN!!! I was so torn about this, being furious with my darling daughter who did not put the earring back in immediately a couple of weeks ago when it somehow came out during the night and not wanting Finley to be terrorized again with the earring gun.  When it happened, Chiara told me that she couldn’t find the back to the earring and I strongly suggested she use one of her own backs as enough time had gone by and the hole was healed enough.  BUT NO she didn’t and I think she was afraid to do it because Finley would cry.  At any rate she threw out the earring only to find the back two days later!!! YIKES!  So for the past few weeks little Miss Fin has been walking around like a pirate with only one earring in her ear and TODAY the little lamb was led back to the doctor’s to have it re-pierced.

Pirate, eye patch,

The Pirate with One Earring

And I feel both glad and sad but mostly GLAD because I am happy she will have both ears pierced when we walk in the Easter Parade.

Doctor's office, pierced ear, earrings

All Happy Again with Two Earrings at the Doctor's Office

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Well for one thing I didn’t have to cook! And yes that can be a blessing!! We were invited to participate in a Seder dinner hosted by one of our friends.  A delightful evening with excellent food and old friends as well as some new.

Tonight ( I started to write this last night)  is the first night of Passover and it is quite powerful to think that all over the world where ever Jews have gathered together, the ritualistic meal and ceremony being celebrated will be virtually identical.  There are variations;  shortened versions, some more religious and some more guest interactive than others.  Over the years I’ve been privileged to attend many Seders and I’m partial to the full blown ceremony – where there is a leader and all of the guests read a passage from the Haggadah.  Our friend, Ellen always hosted the most elaborate and meaningful Seder dinners.  The table is set traditionally and explanations are given for the meaning of the symbolic foods and tableware.  It’s true that this type of Seder can lead to some seat squirming by the younger set and there is a point where you get really hungry and hope that the gifilte fish will be coming out of the kitchen soon!! But I ‘m Catholic and old enough to have been raised with the Latin Mass  and I like ceremony…. High Mass with its incense is still a clear memory in my mind.  I digress slightly….  Passover is the story of celebrating the freedom the Jews obtained when they fled Egypt.  Passover is literally the story of the Angel of Death passing over the households that had the blood of the Paschal lamb above the doorway indicating that there were Jews living there and the first born male should be spared from the Tenth Plague.  The Seder plate, a traditional platter on the table holds the following items: Maror – the bitter herb symbolizing the bitterness of their slavery, Karpas – the vegetable, usually parsley which is dipped into salt water (symbolizing the tears of slavery) as an appetizer dates back to biblical times, Charoset –apples, nuts, spices ground together and mixed with wine symbolizes the mortar the Hebrew slaves used to build the Egyptian structures, Zeroa – shank bone of a lamb symbolizing the Paschal lamb sacrificed for Passover, and Beitzah- a roasted egg symbolizing mourning of the loss of the Temple and also spring, the season when Passover is celebrated.  There is Matzoh served in lieu of any bread because when the Jews fled Egypt they didn’t have any time to leaven their bread.  Conservative Jews refrain from eating any leavened bread for the full week of Passover.

Matzoh, Matzah, Schmura

Matzoh

Some of the courses include Gifilte fish, often served as the first course and accompanied by the bitter herb, horseradish, followed by Matzoh Ball soup, delicious in homemade chicken broth, which has now become a New York coffee shop staple, and followed by an array of dishes; brisket, stuffed breast of veal, kugel, potatoes and way too much more! There are the 4 questions, the most well known of which is the title of this blog and asked by the youngest person at the table and finally the Afikomen hunt which is the official ending of the Seder.  At the beginning of the Seder, the leader breaks a piece of Matzoh in threes and hides the largest piece.  At the conclusion of the Seder, the leader asks the children at the meal to look through out the house for the Afikomen and bring it to him so that the Seder can end.  There is so much more to this traditional holiday but Dayenu or enough.  Dayenu is a traditional Passover song; the essence is It would have been enough for us…. further meaning to thank God for his many gifts – it would have been enough for us just to have received the Torah or it would have been enough for us just to be freed.

As a Gentile and Catholic sitting through and listening to the Seder, I am always struck by the similarity of many of the Easter traditions and those of Passover.  Take for instance the time of the year, both occur annually in the spring. The green vegetable always a sign of spring is always present at the Easter meal, often asparagus as they are the forerunners of the fresh vegetable season.  Many Christians serve an Easter ham for their dinner, however, just as many serve a Leg of Lamb.  Both slaughters of a newborn animal done traditionally in the spring.  Then there’s the Easter Egg, for us the egg symbolizes birth, rebirth, new life – very much in keeping with the season when the trees, flowers and plant life are all coming back to life.  Do you  see a parallel  between the annual Easter Egg hunts and finding the Afikomen?

Easter as a Christian holiday universally celebrates the Risen Christ, however, after that the holiday takes on many cultural and ethnic traditions.  As an Italian-American, Easter in my home included Pizzagaina, a traditional Italian Easter pie.   My Grandmother used to make it and we always looked forward to this once a year treat.  It is a pie or bread that is stuffed with various meats such as ham, proscuitto, sopressatto, mortadella and cheeses and eggs.  The story as it has been told is that the women of the household would gather on Good Friday and make and bake the pie.  It was then cooled and chilled and could not be eaten before noon on Holy Saturday.

There are other ethnic traditions such as the intricately decorated eggs of Czechoslovakia, the Passion Plays in South America, in Austria eggs are dyed green on Maundy Thursday and crullers are fried, in Russia pussy willow branches are picked and used to tap friends on the shoulder bringing them good luck.  There is Paasbrood in the Netherlands, a yeasty bread made with currants and raisins – sound familiar? Hot Cross Buns!

Christian Easter Hot Cross Buns

Hot Cross Buns

My husband and I have our own tradition, one shared by hundreds of other New Yorkers – we walk in the Easter Parade down Fifth Avenue.  We don our Easter bonnets, well in his case, a Straw Boater and we stroll up and down the Avenue.  It is great fun and I love making an outrageously floral and ribbon concoction  for my Easter Bonnet. This year is going to be thrilling for me because ever since Finley Ray was born (19 months ago) I have been waiting for the Easter Sunday that she would be able to walk or maybe stroll – er with us.  This Easter Sunday, little Finny will be with us, all decked out in a traditional Easter outfit a la my past – She will be wearing a mint green dress with a matching coat and hat – pink roses on the hat and all!!  Look for a future blog with photos.

In your Easter bonnet, with all the frills upon it,
You’ll be the grandest lady in the Easter Parade.
I’ll be all in clover and when they look you over,
I’ll be the proudest fellow in the Easter Parade.
On the avenue, Fifth Avenue, the photographers will snap us,
And you’ll find that you’re in the rotogravure.
Oh, I could write a sonnet about your Easter bonnet,
And of the girl I’m taking to the Easter Parade.

Happy Easter to all and a Guten Pesach!

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The moon won’t full until tomorrow night BUT as the weekend wore on and the moon inched its way to fullness; “things” just sort of happened!  Some weekends are just high drama or maybe Mercury is in retrograde!

Fridays aren’t Fundays here in Ocean Grove; The first problem is that we never leave the house early enough and being a Starbucks Grande Americano junkie the longer I am without caffeine, the more apparent it becomes to me that Peter is doing everything wrong and wasting time and we aren’t out the door.

Starbucks Americano

Got to have that espresso caffeine fix

First stop is Main Avenue where we pop into Ocean Grove Hardware and say a big THANK YOU to Dave who graciously removed the two huge tree branches that landed in our yard weeks ago.  We had no idea how we were going to get the tree branches cut up small enough for the town to pick it up.  Peter firmly believes that Jews shouldn’t use chain saws and I agree with him especially when the moon is almost full.

Friday night I have plans to go to the Fashion show and dinner at Bia with Trish, Heide and Jim and Susan.  The idea was to be there about 6:45 so we could get a good table.  I don’t think we got home until after 5pm and I have 10 lbs. of chicken breasts to divide up between 2 houses.  I portion and bag all of them and realize I can’t get them all into the freezer. I call the Lilligaard Hotel to see if I can use their freezer and no answer so I left a message  and run around to get dressed and put on make-up and see if I can re-scrunch some curl into my hair.  I flip on the light in the bathroom and poof, first the overhead light goes out and then the fixture over the sink blows.  I think it’s a fuse so I yell to Peter who is outside on the phone that I blew a fuse – his comedic friend George who is on the other  end of the line says Tell Lori to calm down”. ha ha ha, I’m not in a laughing mood as the time is ticking away.  In most houses when you blow a fuse you can go into the closet or hallway and open the box up and flip the circuits. NOT HERE.  The circuit breaker box is in the basement which I wouldn’t call  a basement because a basement is where you can store things; where you can put a washer and dryer, a Christmas tree stand, bikes in the winter and hundreds of other things.  We have what is known as a Yankee cellar. To access it I must move the litter box, the big plastic bottle of litter, the container for the litter, a dust mop, a sponge mop and a Swifter.  Then I have to move the stool and the recycle bin, the bag of newspapers and a BIG box (read Costco) of black garbage bags and oh yes the cat litter scoop and the rug under the litter box – ALL THIS so we can open the trap door and Peter can go down not really stairs but more like a ladder to check the circuit breakers. Once the trap door is open, there is always the possibility that a cat might decide to explore the nether regions of the cottage so I close them both in the bathroom with me which significantly reduces the amount of natural light I am using to put on a happy face.  Still no lights – I yell downstairs to ask if he tripped the breakers?  He says they’re  all on -I repeat the question unaware that I was speaking in tongues.  After he  does flip the breakers and still no lights,  I ask the obvious question-“Did you flip them all?”   “Yes” “Are you sure ?”  “Well there’s one not next to the others and it says ‘push to test” and I don’t need to tell you what I said next, you can fill in the blanks.  Alright, I give up –  still no lights and I’ve got to put my make-up on in the fast descending dusk.

The March lamb is nowhere to be found, it’s cold, my knee hurts, I’m late and I have a bottle of wine, canned goods for the food bank and my knitting  so I need a ride. You may be wondering why the knitting is going to dinner and a fashion show?  Just more manic multi-tasking? No I’m not actually going to knit during the show but I do need Susan to look over yet another error and see if she can fix it . I have to say that none of us were thrilled with our meal, the four of us that had ordered the fish sent it back because it was cold. New entrees arrived but the meal just wasn’t great except for the Bistro cake which was one of those molten chocolate in the middle, so decadent that there’s no point in eating it – just put it in your pocket because it’ll end up on your hips anyway.

Saturday morning we called Jim and Susan for electrical help and Jim went into the cellar with Peter and soon we had lights BECAUSE Peter had  never touched the one that was not quite next to the others!!! We ended up going to Home Depot to buy a new fixture for over the mirror and it will look better with the new wallpaper.

Sunday morning brought one of those domino effect events.  Peter was working on the wallpapering of the bathroom and installing the light fixture which required him to shut off the electricity in the bathroom which required him to go into the cellar and you know what that entailed.  When I came into the room I was disturbed by the mops leaning into the egg beaters – yes you heard me right, but it’s a long story.  So as I am muttering to myself (as I am wont to do) about how carelessly these mops were tossed aside and I decide to remove the one from the egg beaters, as I pull it away the mop head is behind the legs of the stool upon which a canister of cat kibble sits.  Uh huh, the canister topples over and kibble is everywhere.  !@%$#%@.

Vintage hand held egg beater mixer

Vintage Egg Beater

After I cleaned that up, I went to wash the dishes but in the dishpan was brown water and coffee grounds-more distress and in my anger about this disgusting mess, I try to empty out the pan and not lose all of the dishes and silverware in it.  I stabbed myself with a paring knife that was in the water. More !@%$#%@


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NOT!! Thirty-three years ago yesterday, I gave birth to a much wished for baby girl.  My little girl would have brown eyes and dark hair I was positive…of course five years earlier I was positive about that then too.  NOT – Joel Damien Berti was born with blond hair and blue eyes that stayed blue.  They turned out to be a beautiful blue but that’s another story for another time.

Chiara Jude Berti was born on a lovely Sunday morning in March 1977.  Those were the days of Lamaz classes and all my friends encourage me to go  “natural” . Maybe it was a fulfilling experience for them but for me – NOT!  Everything was NOT going according to the plan; first of all I woke up with a terrific backache and since I had had back labor with Joel, I knew this was it.  I’m type A and my husband at that time, Dennis, wasn’t exactly a cool character under pressure to say the least so while he was running around getting stuff (who knows what?) I hopped in the shower.   I was counting the time between back twinges (my contractions) and he yells What are you doing in there? Let’s go!” – “I”m shaving my legs”.  Needless to say that didn’t go over so well and he was right – what was I doing?  Propping my leg up on the shower wall to shave it and having a contraction, I almost sliced open a vein in a leg I could hardly  see over my belly.  Just for the record,  I’m pretty sure this was the one and only time he was ever right.

Dressed and out the door and I don’t even remember what we did with Joel!?!  We lived in Avon and the hospital was in Hartford and that meant we needed to go over a mountain.  Dennis took off like a mad man and by the time we were going down the mountain at breakneck speed, I was yellingoh God, I’m going to have this baby right now if you keep hitting bumps.”

Into the hospital and my first experience with the prep nurse is a disaster, she’s old, crabby and probably at the end of her shift – She doesn’t really believe in Lamaz!  As soon as I was in the delivery room, I was grateful to see that I had a Lamaz-trained nurse with us.  If you know anything about the LaMaz method, you know the mother to be needs a partner who can work with her through the pain.  Our classes had been disastrous and he didn’t want to practice, sooooooo.  It wasn’t very long before the nurse knew we were headed for hysteria so she just pushed him aside and said in a very loud voice “Listen to ME when I count and tell you when to breath in and out.” It took just a short time to get in the rhythm and Baby Berti was born fairly quickly.  It turns out I slept through the first two stages and by the time I got to the hospital I was already in the crazy stage known as Transition no wonder the techniques designed for the beginning stages hadn’t worked.

She was beautiful and a little jaundiced so we both got to stay in the hospital a few more days.  We had been calling her Nicole but it didn’t seem quite right. I wanted to call her Gabriella but her father said he didn’t like the nickname Gabby.  I was leaving the hospital and taking my last luxurious sitz bath when in walks one of the floor nurses.  She was a big Jamaican woman who looked down on me and said in her lilting accent, “Mrs. Berti, that baby don’t have a name and she is NOT leaving this hospital till you put one on that birth certificate.” OK I had been warned and duly noted.  That day Baby Berti left the hospital with a beautiful name;  Chiara Jude Berti.  I had wanted my little angel to have an Italian name – Chiara is Italian for Clare and from that day forward she was always my Chiara de la luna, the bright and clear light of the moon.

I had visions of her distant future husband whispering in her ear, “Chiara what a beautiful name you have!” What I didn’t anticipate in her future was the constant mispronunciation of her lovely name and having to send her to school with the phonetic spelling of her name pinned on her dress!!!  She blossomed into a beautiful woman with a beautiful name.  She is  an accomplished young woman and a loving and devoted mother.  And I am so pleased that when she had her own gorgeous little girl, she chose a lovely and unique name too – Finley Ray Clark.

Happy Birthday honey, sorry this blog is belated but the pc gremlins were busy, busy, busy yesterday and I couldn’t get on the computer.  33 years is a hell of long time, where oh where did it go??

Is it real fur?

Finny is off to a party.

Getting Fin's ears pierced

Chiara and Finley Ray

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