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(A swedish diagram showing the effect on a fre...

(A swedish diagram showing the effect on a frequency of a behavior when under positive reinforcement) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU CATCH A SPOUSE OR CHILD DOING SOMETHING GOOD?  Seems like it should be a simple answer but ….not always!  Read what Dr. Barry Lubetkin has to offer in the way of good communication and parenting skills:

“The research is unambiguous and definitive…….Positive reinforcement is far superior to negative reinforcement (punishment), when the goal is to influence and strengthen another’s behavior. And yet despite this fact,we human beings continue to yell,humiliate,undercut and generally disparage others when they engage in a behavior or habit that we find undesirable or annoying.

Witness the mother who continues to yell at the child who curses out loud. The child continues to curse and is often reacting to the mothers attention even though it is negative. Witness the wife who continuously shames her husband each time he leaves his dirty clothing out without bringing it to the laundry. More often then not her negative reaction does not diminish the sloppy behavior at all, but simply leads to anger and passive aggressive behavior.

But what would the results be if that same mother chose to hug and praise the child when 10 minutes elapse without cursing……..and do it again 10 more minutes later! And what if the wife thanked the husband immediately after he picked up his socks and repeated that praise whenever he attempted (even if not completely successful) behaving in a less slovenly manner. If positive reinforcement is given immediately and consistently after a desired behavior is demonstrated, it will strengthen the probability of that behavior occurring again.

“Catching a child being good” has been a mainstay of child behavior therapy for many years,so it is surprising how few parents practice it. Here’s an assignment…..choose one behavior or bad habit that your child or partner continues to do and wait 10 minutes for it not to occur and then immediately thank and praise them for not doing it. Repeat every 10 to 30 minutes or when appropriate, and watch that bad habit begin to diminish! ”  Email me at IBT104@aol.com with your results!

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A red Chow Chow.

A red Chow Chow. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This is an unusual Top Ten list for me and I’m only posting it because the article’s headline caught my attention.  I love dogs and the people who put the list together love dogs too!  They are NOT saying these breeds are not safe!  In fact I’m going to cut and paste the prologue that was on the web site:

“What we want to start off saying is that we love dogs on this site.  It’s an informational and fun website.  So bottom line is that we are NOT in any way saying that these dog breeds are not safe.  It depends on a number of things such as genes, temperament and most obvious, how the dog is raised and trained.   So when we’re talking about dog attacks, it’s not always the dog’s fault but we still felt it would be useful to report on biting statistics of dogs just in case it might affect a person’s choice on buying a certain breed.   We’re not posting this article to discourage you from buying these dog breeds.  We just want to make you aware of the statistics out there in certain studies.  The Journal of the American Veterinary Medical Association conducted a twenty year study on the most dangerous dog breeds, and here are the top 10 most dangerous dog breeds based on the amount of fatalities they have caused.  Again, this is purely statistical and should not discourage you from purchasing any of these breeds.”

10.  St Bernard – Seven fatalities so it’s not like this breed is terribly dangerous.   The real reason for their potential danger is their sheer size.   St. Bernards are actually pretty lovable and affectionate dogs. *I had a friend who had a St. Bernard and 3 kids – the dog was a moosh 🙂

 9.  Great Dane – Another dog with seven fatalities so again, not dangerous.  The Great Dane, like the St. Bernard can be troublesome because of its sheer size.  These are some big dogs but if groomed and trained properly will be great pets.

8.  Chow Chow – according to the study the Chow Chow has been responsible for eight fatalities.  The Chow Chow does have an aggressive personality, especially around strangers and other pets.  Again however, this has to do with ownership and not always a genetic problem of the dog. * Martha Stewart has a few of these, can’t imagine she would put herself or anyone at risk;  It is about ownership!

7. Doberman Pinscher – Known to be one of the most aggressive breed of dogs ever, the Doberman Pinscher was one of the most recognizable dog breeds as they were used extensively as guard dogs.  Dobermans accounted for 9 fatalities in the study but most deaths were caused in defense of their owners.  This is a great, loyal dog.  * I love these dogs, would definitely have one!

6.  Malamute – this breed was responsible for 12 fatalities an is another case of a large dog causing unintended harm.   Families with children need to be careful if purchasing a malamute.

5.  W0lf-Dog Hybrid – this one is no surprise as half of this dog is wolf.  Even with proper crossbreeding, domestication, and training Wolf-dog hybrids maintain much of the prey drive of their wolf genetics making them quite dangerous to keep as pets. 

4.  Husky – With a total of 15 fatalities linked to Huskies in the study conducted, they are definitely known to be aggressive, but this has been linked to poor training/obedience issues as Huskies rate as one of the most intelligent canines in the world.

3. German Shepherd – Also like the Doberman, their high intelligence and aggressiveness makes them sure picks as guard and police dogs. With 17 fatalities attributed to them, they are the third most dangerous dog breed.

 2.  Rottweiler – Coming in at #2, the Rottweiler was responsible for 39 fatalities in this study.  Their temperament is usually passive and attentive, but are known to be prone to aggressive outburst.

 1.  Pit Bull – To anyone who knows dogs, the American Pit Bull Terrier is no surprise at #1 on a list of deadliest dogs. In this study the Pit Bull stood far ahead of all the other breeds with 66 fatalities attributed to it. Known for their extremely aggressive nature, many states have legislation banning the breeding of pit bulls
 Excerpted from Puppy Toob web site
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For some reason I thought you  were supposed to be able to catch up on your sleep over the weekends.  What a concept! Last weekend which was chronicled here as you know brought us to the ER at 11:30pm with our friend Heide and we didn’t get home till 2am!  And our friend, Joe, was in the ER that day too but at least he was there during the day and our friends, Susan and Jim were in vigilance then.

This weekend just as I was winding down on my computer and had finished  copying (yet) more recipes, both of our cats, Nick and Nora were in front of the screen door to the front porch.  Nick was crouched and Nora had her back up – Peter said he saw something moving on the porch.  The wind was pretty strong as a storm was coming in and several times I thought I saw something moving outside on the porch but it was just the flag waving in the wind.

It was not the wind but rather a big black dog who was wagging her tail and crying to come in! What the heck?? A dog on our porch and it was almost midnight!! We turned on the lights and there she was, jet black, tail wagging furiously and crying as only a dog who wants to come in does.  She looked like a Black Labrador Retriever with maybe a little Pit Bull but maybe not. Nora hissed as she knew any self-respecting cat would when a dog arrives on your doorstep.  Nicky leaned into the screen, nose against it and watched with the utmost curiosity-he’s definitely friendlier and more tolerant than Nora.

Well now what to do? Peter is beside himself because the dog doesn’t have a collar on and we wondered why someone was not looking for this pooch.  We stood on the sidewalk and looked up and down the street, straining our ears to hear someone calling out for a dog.  Nothing….No one….  We were not about to leave him on the porch – for one thing she was whimpering and crying to get into the house and incessantly wagging her tail.

Finally we decided to call Jim and Susan because like who else do you call in Ocean Grove when there’s an emergency? I called the cell-no answer so I called the house phone and got Susan.  True to her giving and caring nature, she said,”I’ll put my jeans on and come over” .  They arrived shortly thereafter with several collars and a leash. I said, “why don’t we just take the dog straight to the emergency room”?  LOL

We waited around hoping someone would cruise by looking for the dog.  Susan tried calling Cindy who runs the Dawg Joint but it was midnight and no answer.  Susan then thought to call the police.  The Neptune police said no one had called in a lost dog but they would come and pick it up if we wanted them to.  That was an idea however, they would keep the dog overnight and by 8am the next morning the Humane Society would get the dog.  This sounded way too tenuous for us because what would happen to the dog after a few days at the Humane Society…we didn’t want to think about the consequences.  So Susan left her cell phone number and gave the police a description of the dog.  And then she called the Bradley Beach police to give them the information and her cell.  Not more than 5 minutes went by when her phone rang.  It was the Neptune police department who had a woman on the line who was reporting a lost dog.  She reconfirmed the description and hooray, the dog’s owner was coming to get her.

In less than 5 minutes a car pulled up with a very anxious and teary “mommy”.  As soon as the dog saw “mommy” there was no more crying or whimpering- just tail-wagging.  Once owner and dog were reunited we learned our visitor’s name was Haley and she had been missing for over 2 hours!  They had cruised our street and were scouring the surrounding side streets in hopes of spotting her – not so easy to see a black dog in the middle of the night.

Haley went home with her owners and it turns out they live down the street from us so we’ll surely see Haley again on one of her walks.  All’s well that ends well or so they say.  As for the four of us, it seems like the beginning of another sleepless weekend – it was now 1am!!

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