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Whoa! Dr. Barry Lubetkin is touching on a very hot topic this week.  One that I dare say touches many of us and/or members of our families!  Just think about the hours spent on mindless game playing, endless emails (as opposed to face to face or person to person phone calls) as a form of communication and add in the timeless fascination with the Internet as the go to resource for information and fact on any and every subject in the world.  

Mental Health professionals are disturbed by the growing dependence on the intense pleasure and distraction capability that chronic cruising the internet is providing millions;  Teenagers who search endlessly for games or social media contacts. Stay at home moms who seek out shopping bargains and then return everything because the initial impulse to buy was fueled by boredom.  Men, both lonely and married, and often both, who spend countless hours denying and escaping their daily reality of stress by immersing into the world of pornography.

The definition of internet addiction is largely understood in terms of how the time spent on the screen and keyboard interferes with normal and role-expected behavior.  Are work or social obligations being ignored? Is there an actual shift in conscious awareness occurring (eg.attention and focus on the moment disappears)?  Do endless hours pass without realization?
Do other potentially problematic habits regularly accompany internet activity such as drinking, overeating, overspending, chronic masturbation? Are normal family conversations stunted or non -existent?

We know that actual brain wave changes occur for many folks when they go on the internet, as well as neurotransmitter changes which regulate mood. For these reasons, it is likely that over dependence on the internet will become progressive and more and more difficult to give up.

Self diagnose your addiction. Be brutally honest with yourself. Attempt to identify what needs in your life are not being met by normal means. What are you really escaping from? Are there alternative ways you can reduce your stress or loneliness. Even serious bloggers like many of us are not immune if our need for recognition or approval from others is interfering with enjoying our lives in other ways. Get more information from me at info@ifbt.net”.


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English: A Diagram of procrastination cycle. T...

English: A Diagram of procrastination cycle. Task features, internal factors, irrational beliefs, behavior and consequences are shown. used for a university assessment. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This week, Dr. Barry Lubetkin taps into our discomfort zone and offers us sound advice on how to stay motivated.

Discomfort Dodging and the Comfort Junkies

To one degree or another we are all discomfort dodgers. We believe in the mañana principal;  If it’s a hassle or uncomfortable to get to, then just put it off until tomorrow!  Stay within your comfort zone…don’t venture into activities that might cause anxiety or hard mental or physical stress!

Of course the problem with this mental attitude is that by regularly avoiding the day to day hassles of life (eg. studying, housework, cold calling, writing a paper, visiting a doctor,  asking for a raise, etc., etc.) we allow things to go unaccomplished, anxiety and stress increase, self esteem suffers, and the forward progress that we all want to achieve in our lives stalls.

When we dodge discomfort what exactly are we telling ourselves? “I don’t have the mental energy to do the task”, “I’ll be too embarrassed,” It’s too difficult,” If I’m successful they will expect more,”  etc., etc. blah, blah, blah!

Once you have determined the exact cause of your unhelpful whining…CHALLENGE IT!  Discover that you really have little evidence to support your idea that you can’t possibly do the task. Remind yourself that you have done it many times before. Will there really be no mental cost if you remain on your couch and do nothing?  Of course there will be!

Every day choose one task you have been dodging, and push yourself to accomplish it. Ask a friend to support your decision. Spend much more time in the zone of discomfort and abandon the zone of complacency. Here’s a task: email me, at ibt104 @aol.com and tell me what you think.

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Sorry I am posting this mental health tip from Dr. Barry Lubetkin so late in the day….clearly a sign that I didn’t get enough sleep last night.  Had an early important meeting so of course I didn’t get to bed till after midnight and then couldn’t sleep!!

“Insomnia or sleeplessness is occurring in epidemic proportions. Stress, unemployment,drug,alcohol, and internet addictions, and a variety of mental and emotional disorders make getting a good nights sleep more and more difficult to achieve. 
Here are some solid scientifically sound non medication tips to avoid tossing and turning for hours……..For 3 continuous weeks try the following:
1.Stop napping throughout the day
2.Wake up at the same time each morning, even on weekends and get into bed at the same time every night.
3.If not asleep within 30 minutes of lying down,get out of bed and sit and relax quietly in another room for 20 minutes before returning to bed
4.Bed is for sex and sleep! No reading,no visible clock,no eating in bed.
5.No caffeine or exercise within 2 hours of bedtime.
6.Challenge irrational ideas about sleep……eg.I MUST get 8 hours of sleep every night; My next day will be ruined completely if I don’t sleep enough.
Of course,consultation with a professional sleep specialist must be considered when sleeplessness persists despite self help efforts.”
Lubetkin is the recipient of several awards and honors within the profession of Psychology including The Annual Meritorious Service Award from The Association for the Advancement of Behavior Therapy (currently ABCT). He served as President of The American Board of Behavior Therapy for 12 years and has served on numerous editorial and review boards. He also served as the Editor in Chief of the Diplomate, the first journal published by the American Board of Professional Psychology. In addition to his 2 books, he has published over 50 articles in the fields of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and General Psychology.


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I’ve been Missing In Action for more days than I realized-I was shocked to see the date of my last post.  So what has been going on? I can’t say it’s any one thing that has kept me away from the keyboard, just sometimes life takes over.

There’s been much turmoil in my house lately.  Health issues (not mine) played a major role in keeping me otherwise occupied.   I’ve had some work commitments out-of-state, there was a death in the family, and it seems when the season changes, there’s never enough time to do what needs to be done.  Just life taking over as I said.

I had a couple of ideas about writing a blog and somehow could not sit down and write them.  One was about being superstitious and that idea is still floating around in my head.  Oh and the political circus of Republican primaries certainly is bloggy fodder.  I’m going to attempt to create my an Easter bonnet for the Easter Parade on Sunday – maybe I’ll get some photos.

There’s more of course,  but a promise made to my husband not to  write a lot about our private lives or more specifically his, is the reason this blog is so weird tonight!  I’m not trying to tease you dear readers, I just can’t go into “the gory details”.  I hope this period of emotional stressis over because as is my most neurotic habit, I have been eating and eating and eating and eating again.  So now, I have to get my head on straight about seriously dieting – oh yuck!

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Fresh from my friend Gail, who got it from a friend who got it from we don’t know! We DO KNOW that a professor at CCNY (City College of New York) came up with it – Here it is:

A professor at CCNY for a physiological psych class told his class about bananas.  He said the expression “going bananas” is from the effects of bananas on the brain..  Read on:

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Just A Bunch Of Bananas

Never , put your banana in the refrigerator!!!
This is interesting…

After reading this , you’ll never look at a banana in the same way again.

Bananas contain three natural sugars – sucrose , fructose and glucose combined with fiber. A banana gives an instant , sustained and substantial boost of energy.

Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world’s leading athletes.

But energy isn’t the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions , making it a must to add to our daily diet.

According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression , many felt much better after eating a banana. This is because bananas contain tryptophan  a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin , known to make you relax , improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.

Forget the pills – eat a banana. The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels , which can affect your mood.

Anemia : High in iron , bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.

Blood Pressure: This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt , making it perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so , the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit’s ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.

Brain Power
200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school ( England ) were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast , break , and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

Constipation: High in fiber , including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action , helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

Hangovers: One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake , sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and , with the help of the honey , builds up depleted blood sugar levels , while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.
Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body , so if you suffer from heartburn , try eating a banana for soothing relief.

Morning Sickness:
Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness

Mosquito bites: Before reaching for the insect bite cream , try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Nerves: Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

Overweight and at work? Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria found pressure at work leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and chips. Looking at 5 , 000 hospital patients , researchers found the most obese were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs. The report concluded that , to avoid panic-induced food cravings , we need to control our blood sugar levels by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady.

Ulcers: The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases. It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.

Temperature control: Many other cultures see bananas as a “cooling” fruit that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant mothers. In Thailand , for example , pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD):
Bananas can help SAD sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan.

Smoking &Tobacco Use: Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking. The B6 , B12 they contain , as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them , help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.

Stress: Potassium is a vital mineral , which helps normalize the heartbeat , sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body’s water balance.. When we are stressed , our metabolic rate rises , thereby reducing our potassium levels. These can be rebalanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.

Strokes: According to research in The New England Journal of Medicine , eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40%!

Warts: Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart , take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart , with the yellow side out. Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape!

So , a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills.. When you compare it to an apple , it has four times the protein , twice the carbohydrate , three times the phosphorus , five times the vitamin A and iron , and twice the other vitamins and minerals. It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around So maybe its time to change that well-known phrase so that we say , “A banana a day keeps the doctor away!”

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Nature’s Perfect Fruit

PS: Bananas must be the reason monkeys are so happy all the time! I will add one here; want a quick shine on our shoes?? Take the INSIDE of the banana skin , and rub directly on the shoe…polish with dry cloth.. Amazing fruit

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